First Date
After a long and uneventful week of swiping right, you’ve finally landed a potential date.The next couple of hours following that are going to be the most critical because, you have to plan and execute the very first and most important date you will have with said person. It’s such a tasking decision to make if we’re being honest. Your mind is racing with thoughts and you find yourself asking questions like, what can we do? where would we go? would it be nice? will it be awkward? are they going to like me? are they going to like me enough to go on a second date with me? It’s literally a never ending cycle of panic.
First dates are supposed to somehow inexplicably determine the next chapter of our lives. You make the wrong move or say the wrong thing once, and its game over in a split second. At the same time, you laugh a certain way, or share a similar taste in film, and you both might as well be getting married to each other on the spot. They also somehow allow us to portray the person we want to be, rather than the person we truly are. It’s a chance for a new beginning, a fresh start, and that is why nothing will ever come close to it. Not even a second or a third date.
First dates will almost always determine whether or not we move forward in our romantic endeavors. Oftentimes, you hear these horror stories about a first date and how nothing good ever seemed to come out of it. On the other end, you see actual beautiful and healthy relationships manifesting into life long commitments, all based on the very first encounter you have with one person. There’s really no right or wrong way to explain it. You know how they say you always remember your first everything? you literally always recall every passing moment you’ve had on a first date. When all is said, putting yourself out there is the only way to know what you truly desire or don’t in a partner.
In the event that you go on one, here are just a few things to note. Be realistic. Your expectations are yours and yours alone.What you meet on the other side is absolutely what you get. Don’t be upset when you find out that they are really not that exciting in person. Secondly, its not a job interview. The only way to really connect is to let yourself flow with intent. Don’t get worked up for no reason. Perhaps you realize that they have a squeaky little voice you can’t stand or a snort when they laugh, or maybe too mouthy, underwhelming or just mute all together? There’s so many reasons to ‘get the ick” at a first date.
At the end of the day, remember that the other person is just human before you start cancelling them -plus, life is not that difficult. In the case that the date was unforgivably awkward and uncomfortable, humbly excuse yourself from the chat (in a nice way of course) and look forward to meeting a better suited match. Come as you are, relax and let go and see how much of a difference that can make. Even if you decide that it’s not for you, that’s perfectly okay. You can move on to the next and the next and you get the point.
Lastly, be open minded and considerate. there’s always going to be a flop somewhere. You realize said person is a catfish, eats and talks at the same time, and keeps checking their phone every half minute. It’s okay! don’t take it too personal, if anything it makes your job easier. Consider it as a cherished memory you’ll always have to look back on. There are really no guarantees in the game of dating, there’s only what you make out of it. Go on that first date and smash it love!
p.s - If you need a first date planned, you know exactly what to do.x
Signed,
The Date Connoisseur.